Wonderfully insightful, indeed two sides at the same coin in certain respects. Don't know if you saw my most recent live stream but I spent quite a bit of time discussing the effects of family scapegoating abuse as related to overachievement and underachievement. Similar theme going on here.
That would be fantastic and if you don’t mind sharing a link to the actual post because for whatever reason, I’m having trouble finding it.
It’s interesting to me how common themes develop among different people side-by-side. It’s as if somebody higher up is orchestrating it. A bunch of different instruments playing the same tune.💕🤗💕
Thank you for directing me to your "Livestream: Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) Q & A and Mother's Day Support" video. Lots of wonderful information.
My EMDR therapy did not approach my condition from a clinical standpoint. Your viewpoint brings balance, and on a high note, supports what my internal seeking has revealed.
On a comical note:
When I saw the title of your video, my Twelve-year-old self said, "Mother's Day Support? Fuck that! We're over it."
Translation: We're still too raw.
"Have you seen my mother?"—One of my favorite childhood books.
Anyway, to anyone who sees this, Rebecca's video is chock full of insights about the scapegoat's overachieving and underachieving tendencies. Highly recommend.
That is a powerful perspective. I agree expectations placed on us by family and society of being a high achiever smother our souls. In my job creative thinking is not supported, they expect almost motorized responses. And family members have outdated beliefs about our role as wives and mothers.
They way I feel lately is that everyone can shove it, my peace is the priority. Wear the world as loose garment.
The day I turned in my notice at The Market, my name for it in the book, the manager told me that my personality was not appreciated and that I was to stick to the script and he would be watching. Are we human beings or are we actors in some ancient outdated play? Thanks for commenting Agita!
Wonderfully insightful, indeed two sides at the same coin in certain respects. Don't know if you saw my most recent live stream but I spent quite a bit of time discussing the effects of family scapegoating abuse as related to overachievement and underachievement. Similar theme going on here.
That would be fantastic and if you don’t mind sharing a link to the actual post because for whatever reason, I’m having trouble finding it.
It’s interesting to me how common themes develop among different people side-by-side. It’s as if somebody higher up is orchestrating it. A bunch of different instruments playing the same tune.💕🤗💕
I lay the groundwork for both over and underachieving in family systems that scapegoat at the beginning of this video; a focused discussion on overachieving and FSA dynamics begins at 49:19 in this Livestream: https://familyscapegoathealing.substack.com/p/family-scapegoat-education-rebecca-mandeville
Thank you for directing me to your "Livestream: Family Scapegoating Abuse (FSA) Q & A and Mother's Day Support" video. Lots of wonderful information.
My EMDR therapy did not approach my condition from a clinical standpoint. Your viewpoint brings balance, and on a high note, supports what my internal seeking has revealed.
On a comical note:
When I saw the title of your video, my Twelve-year-old self said, "Mother's Day Support? Fuck that! We're over it."
Translation: We're still too raw.
"Have you seen my mother?"—One of my favorite childhood books.
Anyway, to anyone who sees this, Rebecca's video is chock full of insights about the scapegoat's overachieving and underachieving tendencies. Highly recommend.
Thank you for commenting Rebecca!
I will look for your post shortly.
A couple of months ago we had a discussion about this on one of your posts.
https://familyscapegoathealing.substack.com/p/scapegoating-in-human-systems
One of my comments was the inspiration for this “reflection.”
If you remind me I can also give you the time stamp of when I start talking about this in my live stream.
That is a powerful perspective. I agree expectations placed on us by family and society of being a high achiever smother our souls. In my job creative thinking is not supported, they expect almost motorized responses. And family members have outdated beliefs about our role as wives and mothers.
They way I feel lately is that everyone can shove it, my peace is the priority. Wear the world as loose garment.
The day I turned in my notice at The Market, my name for it in the book, the manager told me that my personality was not appreciated and that I was to stick to the script and he would be watching. Are we human beings or are we actors in some ancient outdated play? Thanks for commenting Agita!